Connection is a skill, not a personality trait.
I was excited to deliver this keynote for the University of Technology Sydney as part of SXSW Sydney, exploring the theme Curious Connections: How Introverts Can Shine in Social Settings.
Connection is something I have spent my career exploring through music, psychology, and communication. What I have learned is that confidence in communication is not something you are simply born with. It is a skill that can be developed, practised, and strengthened.
This session explored the myths around introversion, extroversion, and social confidence, and challenged the idea that being good at connection requires a particular personality type. Whether you are naturally outgoing, more reflective, or somewhere in between, meaningful connection comes from understanding yourself and others.
Together, we explored practical strategies to communicate with more confidence, navigate social settings, and create stronger human connections without needing to change who you are.
Key Takeaways
- Connection is a skill, not a personality trait – You do not need to be the loudest person in the room to create meaningful connections. Confidence comes from understanding your communication style and learning how to use it effectively.
- Curiosity is the foundation of connection – The most powerful conversations begin when we shift our focus from performing to understanding. Asking better questions creates space for genuine human connection.
- Clear communication creates confidence – Knowing what you feel, what you need, and how to express it allows others to connect with you more easily. Clarity creates confidence, and confidence creates connection. And most importantly remember that mastering any skill takes practice. You can practice anywhere, from when you are ordering your coffee (chat with your barista) to asking an equation in a meeting (smile and believe that your contribution is valid!)
